5 ways to kick self-sabotage in the pants

As an entrepreneur, you’re wired to take risks and seek out new (and most likely, uncomfortable) experiences.  You see others doing great things and know that the success of your business depends on constantly pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone.

But that constant comparison and discomfort can be tough to deal with day in day out. On the days when we feel isolated, unsupported and defeated – retreating to a more comfortable place is sometimes the only choice available to us.  And that’s OK. It’s called self-care.  But retreating for long isn’t an option. You didn’t come forth to play a small game and achieving what you set out to, means kicking self-sabotage in the pants and getting back in the game.


Today I’d like to share 5 ways to recognize self-sabotage, make smart choices and achieve the results you want now.

1) Know what you want to achieve
If you don’t know what you want your business to do for you and the clients you serve, how can you make a plan to achieve those goals? The following questions will help you get clear on what you want:

  • How much do you want to make per year?
  • What kinds of clients do you want to attract?
  • What is each client worth to you in revenue?
  • What lifestyle do you want to lead? e.g. do you want a 4 day week? Do you want to take the month of August off?
  • How many hours do you want to work per week?

Now you know what you want, you can figure out what you need to do to get there.  Which leads me to #2….

2) Get support where you need it
What support do you need to achieve you goals?  When I first launched my coaching practice in 2010, I knew I needed help in marketing an entirely new business to an entirely new audience, so I enrolled in the Client Attraction Business School.  When I decided to build an on-line course, I enrolled in Jeanine O’Neil Blackwell’s 6-figure online course program. Sure, I could have tried to figure these things out for myself, but I know that investing in the right coaching and programs helps me reach my goals much faster and save me a whole lot of frustration in the process.  Identify what support you need, do your research and go with your gut on who or what is right for you.

3) Know the difference between an investment and a silver bullet
One thing I don’t love about my industry is the abundance of coaches and programs promising the world in return for a pretty hefty fee. With so many ‘solutions’ out there, how can you be sure you’ll get a return on your investment?

Making a decision based upon logic and not emotion is key to not getting burned.  If a program sounds like a silver bullet, it’s probably bullshit.  If a program promises you a system that will get results over time IF YOU DO THE WORK, you’re on the right track.

4) Surround yourself with supportive, objective people
I’m very lucky to have a group of pragmatic, supportive and creative people that I regularly discuss business with in my life.  Whether it’s your spouse, a mastermind group or accountability buddy, build a network of supporters who want the best for you and can help you make smart choices.

5) Once you make a decision stick with it
We all talk ourselves out of things we know will help us bust through barriers and move forward.  Just last year, I psyched myself out of going to Fabienne Frederickson’s Mindset Retreat and immediately regretted it. As soon as registration opened for this year’s retreat, I signed up and never questioned the decision. Go with your gut.  If it feels right, it is.

What ways do you sabotage yourself?  If you’d like to discuss limiting beliefs or behaviours, I’d be happy to offer some objectivity and support.  If you’d like to chat, get the ball rolling to talk with me here.

Here’s to your success!

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